“I just got this job by luck, I feel like I do not belong here.”
“I feel like everyone in my team is smarter than I am.”
“I feel like I’m unable to comprehend anything. I am going to fail.”
Many suffer from impostor syndrome at some point in their lifetime related to the work that they do. Those who are constantly in doubt about their potential, work and success.
Impostor syndrome is very common for individuals who feel like they are never good enough no matter how much they have accomplished, how smart others say they are and how successful they may seem to be. It is never enough for them because they find it hard to accept praise and constantly fear failure. It usually affects their confidence and career growth in the long-term.
❀ Instead of striving for perfection, know that it is OKAY to be imperfect. Accentuate on the value that you bring and be realistic on the goals that you are setting for yourself.
❀ This is easier said than done, but push yourself to work harder to the point where you don’t feel like an imposter. You have to do all the stuff that makes you feel like an imposter in order to not feel like an imposter. Don’t wait until you develop your confidence, because by then it would be too late. Put yourself out there now. Courage comes from taking risks.
❀ If you make mistakes, don’t beat yourself up to it. Take the time to learn from it, and how you can overcome this differently and do so with care – by taking responsibility for your failures. Analyze those mistakes honestly and objectively. Ask yourself the 5 W’s and H on what you did wrong. Map out a plan and practice the skills that will prevent you from repeating the same mistakes.
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
❀ Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone has their own stories, own strengths and weaknesses.
❀ Aspire to learn from your team members to know more about your role. It is okay to ask for help when you don’t understand. Learn to appreciate constructive criticism because when you don’t ask for help, you are actually putting your team behind. When you ask a question, it will bring more ideas to the table and oftentimes – inquiring leads to better solutions.
❀ “Chances are, acting on what you’ve learned will require the discipline and motivation to change your habits, or to change the way that your team works. Doing so will help you to avoid self-sabotage in the future, and will allow you to reap the rewards and benefits of implementing better work practices.” – according to MindTools
❀ Own your success. You did not get the job by luck. You got the job because the hiring manager saw potential in you. Believe in yourself that you are capable of doing the job. This also means, be more open to saying “YES” to opportunities that come your way. Of course, those who have had impostor syndrome for a very long time, can find it hard to accept new challenges, because they feel that they are not capable or worthy of taking on that challenge. But be mindful that saying ‘yes’ can open many doors for you. Don’t let impostor syndrome shy you away from these growing opportunities.
“If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you are not sure you can do it, say yes. Then learn how to do it later.” – Richard Branson
❀ Let go of that pressure on yourself, let go of your perfectionism and break the ropes on all of that negative talk! Impostor syndrome is often like a devil that manifests as an evil spirit inside one’s mind because all the negative thoughts that are controlling you, can heavily impact your stress and anxiety levels. Be more selfish for your own good and treat yourself with more respect and positivity. Your body is like a temple.
❀ Embrace your feelings, stay kind to yourself and bring positivity to the spotlight! Take it one step at a time and don’t let self-doubt consume you. Let us be guided by facts, not fear.